Weddings
are such a delight to see. Just seeing a couple who are madly and
deeply in love with each other and the commitment they are willing to
give to spend the rest of their lives forever is magical. I find it
glorious and simply wonderful. When I get married, I don’t want the
ceremony to be simple and plain. A wedding happens only once in a
lifetime. I want it to be grand, extravagant, and elegant (G.E.E.). I
want it either in a garden or a 5-star hotel reception room. Since I
am a perfectionist, I want everything to be absolutely perfect. This
includes the man I will bring to the altar of God. I wouldn’t
settle for just anyone. At my age (17), I already have in mind what
kind of a man I want to have for life. I want him to be God-earing
and to have faith STRONGER than mine. I want him to be respectful of
me and to correct me when I’m wrong, someone who would be there for
me when nobody else is, a family man, someone who lowers his pride
for me and who loves me for me and not lust for me. He should be that
someone who is content with me and won’t look for anyone else.
Above all, he should love God more than he loves me.
My
parents got married at a church on December 30, 1993. According to
them, it was the happiest day of their lives next to me and my
brother being conceived. Until now they are still together -- soon to
be 18 years in marriage and still strong. I am proud of my parents.
Basically, it’s from their marriage I get the ideal one I want. If
there’s one type of marriage I admire most, I would have to say it
is the marriage that lasts a lifetime. There are marriages that only
last for a year or so but the sweetest type is the one where the
couple remains a couple deeply inlove through the years as but act as
if they dated for the very first time. I can say I’m ready for the
REAL commitment when I am financially stable. The commitments
teenagers as I experience are what I call the fake commitments.
Basically, the money we get to go on dates, to buy presents for the
one we admire are from our parents. Commitment doesn’t only take
guts but also costs you. When it comes to courting, it really
depends. I believe God would just tell me when the right time would
be to say “yes” to that guy.
Currently,
I do have that one person I consider special and very dear to my
heart. He is what fits the “job description” for the man I want
to bring to the altar of God. Before him, I have experienced having a
boyfriend which is my ex now. I’ve learned life-long lessons
through the mistakes I’ve encountered in my previous relationship.
These mistakes I make sure not to do with the guy I have right now. I
show I love him through understanding him and praying for him. I also
consistently hug him and kiss him. I put in my little nuggets of
thought every day by saying “I love you” just to make him feel I
do love him. We go out on dates and honestly, I can feel that he
loves me more than I love him which is something I want to balance
out. But God knows I do love him and he is someone I want to spend
the rest of my life with.
